Thankful for Black Friday

Not only has Black Friday entered our homes and reduced Thanksgiving and time with family, it has targeted women and mothers to shop till they drop. To make matters worse, everyone is so far in debt that advertisers are selling the idea "Why not get another?"

Black Friday sales have started on the evening of Thanksgiving, which eliminates the time spent with the family, since the rush will be to finish dinner in time for the sale.

Since wives and mothers are the target audience for Black Friday advertisements, and they also typically prepare the Thanksgiving meal, it puts more pressure on them to cook for so many hours and then lose sleep to shop at crazy hours.

Many stores choose women as their target shoppers and make Black Friday appear to be a tradition and obligation. Commercials for Target and Walmart are the main culprits.

The Crazy Target Woman, treats Black Friday as an Olympic competition, and in one video incorporates reverse psychology to deter the competition. Yes, use catty tactics, that makes females and all of humanity peaceful and thankful this time of year.

Walmart commercials push even more for women to rise and pillage. In the commercial two women gossip about a Black Friday shopping legend, who supposedly named her child Black Friday. Recently in these Walmart commercials the target audience is specifically middle class white women.

With Walmart Low Prices are guaranteed, as well as losing limbs in the chaos of Black Friday.

The scariest part about all this, is how tragically we are in debt and yet there is this push to purchase, most of which is absolutely unnecessary.

For this holiday season, let's actually be thankful for what we have, realize that it's the season of giving NOT receiving and spend time with the family.   I am pretty sure if Crazy Target Woman were real she would be seeing multiple psychiatrists and if the Walmart Legend were real, her kid would end up in therapy for having the name Black Friday.

Sexy and Smart: Sofia Vergara

Sofia Vergara has been named one of the most talented and powerful women in Hispanic entertainment by the Hollywood Reporter and Billboard.

According to her website, she started her career in the United States Hispanic network and crossed over to the general market.

Sofia Vergara is reaching great heights in her career on screen, as well as marketing herself and the creation of her new clothing line (and her cheetah print dress is so on my Christmas list!).

Sofia has successfully achieved voluptuous beauty and brains.

Sofia embodies and best utilizes the sexual power of the feminine. With her looks she has succeeded, but with the addition of her knowledge of how to monetize her image, she can succeed even further.

Acting like a smart businesswoman would, she is starting to advertise and market while she has a large impact on Hispanic and American groups. Being on one of the most watched television shows in America, Modern Family on ABC (which I watch religiously), has made her career skyrocket.

Sofia has brought about a new change for herself to have a career boost as well as to gain more money through advertising and marketing. The key is that it’s not luck, but timing.

Sofia currently resides in Los Angeles with her son Manolo.

Many upcoming actresses and other aspiring women, let’s face it, what people see first is you, and your body. Appearances can only get you so far and give small successes, but with knowledge there is power and wealth to be gotten. We are all marketing ourselves, but if we do it well, success will be within reach.

Don’t be afraid to strut your stuff, as long as you use your brain.

Sofia Vergara Website

Love and Marriage

Archaic institution some may say. But, do you have to be ancient in age to participate?

Marriages right out of college have a very low success rate. Some only last two to three years before divorce. In a study done in 2003 from Cognitive Therapy Associates (CTA), focusing on NYU students marry right out of college, CTA statistically shows it doesn’t work.

According to the study most of these young marriages end due to the start of a new career and stress.

Dr. Conner who ran this study, found that “students who marry while in school may be missing out on some experiences that would enhance their life experience and maturity”.

So, it would appear we won’t be getting married in our mid-20s like Mom and Dad did. I hope women’s biological clocks can keep up with this new change.

Let’s face it, the balance of finding love, a career, and creating a family is no easy feat.

It’s best said by Steve Watters of Boundless Webzine, “There was a time when weddings followed quickly on the heels of graduation”.

Watters is convinced that no matter what other factors can destroy a young marriage, it will always come down to the guy not being mature enough.

Men do not face as many pressures as women do from society, tradition or employers. Boys will simply be boys and enjoy single life as long as possible.

Maybe expectations that both the man and woman have are too high and our needs seem insatiable.

Watters says “Expectations for a marriage partner are now through the roof”.

The bar is too high, stressful situations and family matters can destroy a marriage, but yet even with the divorce rate so high we still want to get married.

Arranged marriages are very successful. An article from Newsplex shows the success behind the arranged marriage and the failings behind the traditional American marriage. Is it that we aren’t supposed to marry for love because it is not logical or simply because love and marriage weren’t supposed to coincide.

There are so many factors to both the recipe of perfection and disaster of a marriage.

No matter the age, maturity, lack or over abundance of love I’m still willing to take the risk.

Paid by Beauty and Pay the Price

Sexual harassment in the workplace in the U.S. has been steadily rising. Most cases go unheard, but for those that are, more women will seek help than men.

Men feel emasculated if a female is paid more than himself. This also leads to the fact that attractive women get paid more than those considered unattractive. In the article in Forbes "How The Herman Cain Allegations Are Redefining Sexual Harassment" by Larissa Faw, a quote from Anna North a writer from Jezebel said that "Women’s appearances are also scrutinized in other ways in the workplace, from dress to facial features — a recent study even found that women were perceived as more competent when they were wearing makeup.”

This is not a surprise, women are still being referred to as girls and not women. A woman could get paid more from her looks, but pays the price of harassment in the work place. Women are more willing to put up with "women jokes" and other small degrading instances than immediately report something.


If this occurs so constantly that we have to ignore the small comments that lead to sexual harassment, then something must be done and action should be taken right away. There is the fear that a complaint could taint your image or make you appear to be a whining woman.


That is not so. A woman of power and strength should always stand up and do what is right, there is no problem too small or too big. Sexual harassment should not lead to an internal battle of "to tell or not to tell". 

But for those who report these instances, know that you are not alone. The article states that men also suffer and report sexual assault from other men in the workplace.


For the full length Forbes article: How The Herman Cain Allegations Are Redefining Sexual Harassment

Ruining it for all of "U.S."

They ruin it for all of us. Females like Sarah Palin and the few others have brought women to the standard once again of "dumb bitches." For the strong and the few like Hillary Clinton and Eleanor Roosevelt, every one of these illiterate females brings their accomplishments back down to an unattainable standard.

Women should not worry about the balance of working, household chores, and managing family affairs. Multitasking leaves you a Jackie of all trades and master-ess of none. 

In the article "Women in Politics? The U.S. is Failing" published in USA Today statistically the U.S. stands as the 90th in the 182 nations that give fair and equal representation world wide. We are slacking. Men make up 83% of Congress. Women have a harder struggle attaining a seat in Congress than a man would.

Not only  is there the self-conscious bindings society places on women, there is the incapacity for males to accept females coming into power and attaining a greater status or even an equal status to themselves.

In March, India voted to have at least 30% of government to be females. These countries set standards that America is so far from achieving. 

Women are too worried about balancing out the life of having a picket fence and an unattainable American dream, if you read Death of a Salesman or The Great Gatsby, you would understand that this dream is false.

It is time for a change, and to boost up the number from a dismal 90...

USA Today Article

Honor your father and mother, what about your sister?

Honor killing has occurred globally for centuries and still is in practice. Brothers and fathers will kill wives or siblings if they even speak to a male, are suspicious of them seeing a male, or if she was raped. A tainted woman, even if she is tainted against her will, is a dead woman.

Living in fear and under the control of the male in the house, you must travel with a male relative at all times. There is no court, and there is no jury. Death is unavoidable.

In Afghanistan, soccer fields are used for the gathering of men, to stone to death women who have supposedly committed a crime. They die bloody invisible deaths behind thick dark burqas.

In America, this occurs as well. Noor al-Maleki was estranged from her family, due to their incessant want for her to have an arranged marriage with an Iraqi. She was set apart from her family because of her "American ways" of dress and refusal of culture. She started to develop a relationship with a boy in the house she was living in. Her father warned her to discontinue living there or "something bad would happen."

She had seen her father while in the Department of Economic Security (DES) office. When Noor and the woman she was with walked outside, her father ran over both women. Killing his daughter, who bleed out of her mouth and never regained consciousness. Her father faced second-degree murder charges. His reasoning was "honor killing" and protecting the honor of the family that she destroyed.

This problem exists world wide. It should be acknowledged. If you have a sibling, it may seem insane, but that  could be the next target or threat in a case like this. Imagine living in fear, in the dark of a veil, and in a veil that  both blinds onlookers and oneself from the world and problems.

Americans may not wear burqas, but their sight is being clouded by the media's inability to show the truth.
For more information on Noor's story: Time U.S.
To assist women in need globally: Amnesty International

Clitoris Cutting: Pain, Fear, Infection, and Death.

It is tradition, to be applicable for marriage and accepted in your community, to have your clitoris removed with non-medical materials, in a shack, by someone who is a witch doctor with no medical experience.

An article posted in the New York Times on October 15th, 2011 tells the story of Aissatou Kande who as a little girl was forced into getting her clitoris removed as a rite of passage into marriage. On her wedding day she vowed to change the fate of her daughters, so they would not suffer this mutilation.

Across the continent of Africa over 92 million girls and women have undergone this "rite of passage".

This is a huge humanitarian issue. Women are subjected to pain in which they have the one area that senses pleasure of sex removed. Males do not have any alterations to their sex organs, and women who have this procedure done will never be able to enjoy sex. It mentally, emotionally, and physically removes a women from enjoying the beauty of sex. It is a subservient and dangerous procedure. Woman should not be subjected to reside so far beneath men that they have an essential female part removed to take away one of the greatest pleasures in life.

A male can gratify himself into a female, who feels absolutely nothing. Possibly intrusion of pain is felt, but nothing more.

Imagine losing what was meant to be there for the want and need of sex biologically so we could go forth and procreate.

In America the greatest problem is pro-choice or pro-life, imagine now no choice in the matter, and no sexual pleasure during, but only pain. While we here in America focus on the battle of 46 chromosomes being alive or not, women in Africa fight to keep their actual vagina intact.

Africa is where this occurs the most. Africa is also where the highest rates of AIDS is. Now put non-medically trained people, with crude tools, unsanitary conditions, and a young girl with no choice into the same picture.

For more information and to help out you can also visit Amnesty International.
This is a real problem and should be addressed immediately.

Do You Strut Your Slut?

On January 24th, 2011 a police official of Toronto stated in relation to female sexual assault that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized"


Sexual assault is usually kept secret, and now if you live in Toronto you would be deterred from reporting the crime, because ladies you would be the one to blame.


"Historically, the term ‘slut’ has carried a predominantly negative connotation. Aimed at those who are sexually promiscuous, be it for work or pleasure, it has primarily been women who have suffered under the burden of this label." This is what is stated on the SlutWalk Toronto site.


Women should be able to dress however they want. Women are seen as sexual beings, in literature at least, and psychologically, but that does not mean that they desire sexual assault. 


The fact that a man can judge what you wear and declare a dominant mindset is an ignorant act and wrong. 


My father had said in reaction to this, that Muslim women are completely covered and do not draw the same attention as females do who wear scantly clad clothing. My response is that both women wearing complete head to toe coverage and those who wear barely any clothing receive ridicule. 


Maybe there is some insight into this rebellious, almost release from the entrapment of head to toe coverage that gives women the allusion of freedom and where men, correct women by calling them sluts. 


There is the down side to being covered head to toe as well, not only is it an outward expression of repression of speech and female power, it is a covering of the physical female power.


For those of you who have trouble understanding the analysis of the burqa read A Thousand Splendid Suns and it will open your eyes to the Muslim world, in both a loving sense and a troubled one.


The next Slut Walk will be taking place in April 2012. 
SlutWalk Toronto 

He Loves you, He loves you when you say No... and other dealings with the "L" word.

Wendy Atterberry wrote a piece for CNN called "Why women shouldn't say 'I love you' first". Adding onto the mentions she made that a male's response is more of a "yes", "no", or even some gray area, which sounds like "thanks" , "oh", or "I like you, and could maybe see myself loving you sometime in the future". The also acceptable response is the doe eyed stare.

There is the fear of rejection and timing that has to be involved. The other part of it is the defeat in admitting it first. As Atterberry also mentioned in the article "And the truth is, it often takes men longer to get there than it does for women. Men process their emotions more slowly, they're usually more cautious about taking their feelings and relationships to the next level." Interesting right.

So ladies reserve the "L" word and make the man cave first...I did!

Another related subject is when women say no and reject a guy, they simply take that into translation as to like them more.

So somehow lost in translation, the male perceives the female to be coy and in denial of him. I guess we would have less corny romantic films if NO actually meant NO!

For instance in the film "The Prince and Me" when the female character initially rejects the male main character he still attempts to win her heart, and as an audience we are still pushing for their love to flourish even though he leads a life of drinking and womanizing.

Well ladies, remember to say NO and stick to your guns, DO NOT say 'I love you' first, and trust your instinct. Men may be pigs and have poor communication skills, but have hope there are some keepers out there.

CNN article by Wendy Atterberry

How does an "Ovary Compressor" sound?

Jean Martin Charcot, a French Neurologist during the 19th century, inspired Freud's theory of neurosis. This messed up man, yes both are, but Charcot, tried to determine what brought about women's hysteria.

The New York Times Book Review called a published book by Asti Hustvedt, "aspect[s] of pornography masquerading as intellectual inquiry." Charcot had paintings and photographs taken of his "patients" who he induced hysteria. Hustvedt collected these works into a book called Medical Muses which you can sell your soul away for $26.95.

I would say that these images don't come cheap, but I would be lying. These women were very easily obtained because they were women who had "been committed, often for life, to a warehouse for not only the mad, but also the homeless, the pregnant, and unwed, and others who refuse to abide by the conventions of a stifling society". Mind you as the article also states these would be the women who, way back when would be tried as witches.

Something for me, that also comes to mind for book junkies are "A Dolls House" by Henrik Ibsen, "A Streetcar Named Desire", and Girl Interrupted.

These male, white, educated, wealthy doctors would experiment on "diseased, uneducated and lower-class women", that seems fair right...

One of the best quotes to take away from this article would be that the "condition of being a woman as one that can at any moment veer out of control and is therefore in need of medical regulation"

So watch out ladies the Ovary Compressor is coming for you. Charcot had such an interesting revelation that if he shoved a metal clamp up your vagina you would freak out or get hysterical, hm, what a smarty pants.

Charcot died in 1893. Taking with him, we hope his love for compressing ovaries and his misogynistic view of females.

Want to be a Skinny Bitch?

Reading Skinny Bitch  right now by Rory Freedman and Kim Barnouin. This book fell into my lap when my mother's employee lent it to her, which then my father proceeded to read deeply into. I found this book and purchased my own. I will have to say I will not "shut the fuck up, look at an inspirational picture of a skinny bitch, and clean out [my] freezer" I have to say, I will drink coffee less because it has been my life juice for almost a decade, less meat (being a college student shouldn't make that too hard), and drink less milk. All of these listed absurdities which you may find asinine, which I agree sound preposterous, will make sense when reading. Of course, with my skepticism I will not take much of what they say to heart and my new promises I assure you will last a month at most. Though I find myself only in the fifth chapter, I can make my assumptions. I do enjoy the book for its comical and crude humor.

Though I read this for the fun of the task, I found that many people have gone completely vegan after reading. I have to say the most amusing line thus far is this fun fact "We are the only species on the planet that drinks milk as adults. We are also the only species on the planet that drinks the milk of another species" An interesting way to look at things huh.

As my boyfriend (yes still same one as the last post) pointed out, men don't need a LEAN BASTARD BOOK. Though maybe some should, men do not care about their bodies to the extent of reading about a life altering system. We as women will change their life completely for not only themselves but for others, and gasp, MEN! We do need this aggressive attitude in Skinny Bitch, but not along the lines to be a bitch to others, or to become a crazy vegan, but to be damn strong and passionate. We do not need to care what others think, but at the same time not become a bitch. If only there weren't so many stipulations right. I have to say I learned a ton from this book, and a shit more from the diction alone.

So pick up the book whether you are a skinny or fat bitch and enjoy. If you can handle romance novels ladies (which I do enjoy laughing at) you'll get quite a kick out of this one!

We Must, We Must, We Must Improve Our Bust!

I am fully and completely obsessed with Victoria's Secret. I am a patron, but more like an addict. The clothes and undergarments there are always well fitting, long lasting, and I love it. What I do not love is the new invention created to diminish all natural cup sizes. This evil do-er is none other than THE MIRACULOUS PUSH UP BRA otherwise known as the BOMBSHELL. It instantly adds two cup sizes. Your boobs basically sit upon a shelf of padding. I think they are used in high risk SWAT raids. These pads can resist about anything. They very possibly could be military issued.

 All pad and no boob. I tried on one of these well crafted devices and found that these large things protruding off my chest were best used to hit my fellow friend who was wearing one as well.

My first thought when this miraculous bra was created was that if any girl wore this out to a club and was dumb enough to hook up with a guy, he would unclasp the back and find that she miraculously and instantly lost two cup sizes!

Proud natural cup sizes now have a cushioned competitor who steals the eyes of men with their padded deceit. To make matters worse, now it is crafted into a bathing suit. I mean us natural boob lovers can feel at ease knowing that these hefty padded protectors cost over $50 U.S. Dollars. The good news is that these bathing suits are easy to spot out for their unnaturally round shape.

I took my boyfriend (yes I am not that much of a cold hearted feminist) to Victoria's Secret and showed him the bra. He was so shocked! He thankfully thought it was ridiculous as well.

The beach, which has always proved to be the most competitive place for women, now has a player that has gone outside of the regulation bathing suits and will try to diminish pride in the ways of the natural boobs. But never fear! They cannot wear it all the time ;)

<--- keep your eyes peeled these are the boobs to bust!

Religious Mumbo-Jumbo...

Standing in a Roman Catholic church or any church, the line is said in unison by all the people "It is right to give thanks and praise" a line that I cannot help but to muffle a chuckle for its cult like response. Religion was created for belief and the maintenance of civility amongst people as well as to enforce good morals. This was another way to impose more laws unto people. Catholicism has come a long way since its harsh and bloody beginnings. Now reader do not be alarmed I respect Catholicism. The cult like climate is seen in the way that some Catholics tend to be guilt ridden and try to convert others. Many religions try to convert others. One religion does not however and that is Hinduism. Such a foreign and misconceived religion. Maybe the reason for that is that it could appear elite since a follower of Hinduism is born into the religion. When in church the priest wants one to respond to him saying that Jesus is the only son of God. If we are all brothers and sisters of Jesus than how is he the only son? The other issue is that there are other deities of other religions considered to be transcendent  or God incarnate.

A young man once said to me "I know God is a woman... because life is a bitch". In the bible, God is always referred to as HE and it is not in the sense of HE as in MANKIND but in the literal form of HE as in MALE. How does any power achieving woman really sit there in church or open a bible and realize that not only can women struggle in rising to power in this world, but be under a "Man's" thumb in heaven. Don't even let me begin on the crimson tide talk, if you know what I mean. But, is it not enough torture for women in this world to have to suppress them in the afterlife? I mean I could be appeased if the Devil was at least a woman, she would be considerably hot. Adam and Eve, as if one had not predicted I would begin to touch upon these two theoretical imbeciles. Adam needs a real spine. I don't know what God gave him when he made Adam, but Eve got the real deal. I think God also slipped up and gave Eve Adam's balls. Adam blames Eve and all women are cursed for eternity over an apple and to realize we are naked. Eve probably realized ignorance was bliss, but knowledge is power. If Eve didn't pick off and nibble on that apple, the beauty of sex and procreation wouldn't have happened, you think in all their blinded bliss they knew what all their parts were for?

We should thank Eve. Without her, Apple would not have a symbol to advertise with.

This generation

Born in the nineties, we find that we are more mature than those of younger generations. Television has changed for these younger generations, lifestyle, parenting. We find ourselves trapped in an image we cannot escape. The perception of teenagers on television are not only closely accurate to how teenagers act today, but also impose on teenagers how they should act in today's society. Both females and males have certain ways in which to act.

Females are meant to be sexy, easy, smart but not too smart or that is not very attractive, as well as being catty and bitchy to other females. Females must be two-faced to get along in society. This form of action does not only carry out through high school and college years, but also into the business world. When one woman rises to power there is always another woman biting at her heals waiting for her to fail rather than support her. Males on the other hand, remain very simple creatures in the fact that they only need sex, food, sleep, and money to get them by. If a marriage fails its usually due to the failings of one of the needs listed. Men are taught especially through the media to refrain from emotion, where women will always wish for more expression from them, to express power in the work place and the home, and to get what they want.

The parenting that used to involve wooden spoons and harsh words, now falls under sweet whispers, cries of sorries, and the child goes off and continues the chaos. Not that one would condone violence, but the parenting skills have significantly decreased in the years. That is what begets the vicious cycle from childhood, teen years, to adulthood, and then the cycle starts again. It doesn't help to have shows like the Jersey Shore where they are out to party and get laid all the time. These are what children watch today. Shows on Nickelodeon and teen nick often show teenagers struggling with sex and drug related problems. This had not always been the case. These shows only cause more concern in the house hold and put more of a focus on sex and drugs. Exposure to these things at such a young age feeds into the problems. Body image and self-esteem issues are another problem that the younger generations of today suffer with. Advertisements do not help this either.

Hopefully there will be some cataclysmic change that will help these younger generations from falling further into dispair and continuing this viscious cycle.

Helpful tips from horror films

So, as you all know, horror films tend to contain a certain grouping of themes, these being: Suspense, Sex, Fear, and blood. I would like to inform you of some fine tips to save you if you ever end up in this type of predicament. If you want to know what is behind the door, make someone you do not like look. If you're in a place where it appears people get murdered, DO NOT have sex there. Don't walk around naked, or have sex when a killer is on the loose, you will die naked. Well, if you're a female you will. Maybe try to wear a bra that is hard to take off during sex in perilous areas.

Helpful hint, blondes die first...

Take heed to these following movies Halloween all of the ones directed by Rob Zombie, Friday the 13th, Freddie vs. Jason, and Scream.

Personally, I disagree with nudity. The purpose for nudity in a scary film is quite confusing. In some scenes you have to wonder if the director was encouraging necrophilia. For men the process must be very confusing (should I be horny or grossed out?). There are virgins who die in films, or for example Lovely Bones where she was a virgin until moments before she was murdered due to her assilant raping her. Asking men what they thought about the boobs being in films gave several different responses "they make me laugh", "they're meant to be funny", "I could do without them", "I'm not looking and waiting for them, but they are there". When were mamary glands supposed to be funny? Maybe they are still hooked on the stage of Oral fixation according to Freud.

That's all I have to post today, stay tuned for more progress since this is only first post.
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