He Loves you, He loves you when you say No... and other dealings with the "L" word.

Wendy Atterberry wrote a piece for CNN called "Why women shouldn't say 'I love you' first". Adding onto the mentions she made that a male's response is more of a "yes", "no", or even some gray area, which sounds like "thanks" , "oh", or "I like you, and could maybe see myself loving you sometime in the future". The also acceptable response is the doe eyed stare.

There is the fear of rejection and timing that has to be involved. The other part of it is the defeat in admitting it first. As Atterberry also mentioned in the article "And the truth is, it often takes men longer to get there than it does for women. Men process their emotions more slowly, they're usually more cautious about taking their feelings and relationships to the next level." Interesting right.

So ladies reserve the "L" word and make the man cave first...I did!

Another related subject is when women say no and reject a guy, they simply take that into translation as to like them more.

So somehow lost in translation, the male perceives the female to be coy and in denial of him. I guess we would have less corny romantic films if NO actually meant NO!

For instance in the film "The Prince and Me" when the female character initially rejects the male main character he still attempts to win her heart, and as an audience we are still pushing for their love to flourish even though he leads a life of drinking and womanizing.

Well ladies, remember to say NO and stick to your guns, DO NOT say 'I love you' first, and trust your instinct. Men may be pigs and have poor communication skills, but have hope there are some keepers out there.

CNN article by Wendy Atterberry