Ruining it for all of "U.S."

They ruin it for all of us. Females like Sarah Palin and the few others have brought women to the standard once again of "dumb bitches." For the strong and the few like Hillary Clinton and Eleanor Roosevelt, every one of these illiterate females brings their accomplishments back down to an unattainable standard.

Women should not worry about the balance of working, household chores, and managing family affairs. Multitasking leaves you a Jackie of all trades and master-ess of none. 

In the article "Women in Politics? The U.S. is Failing" published in USA Today statistically the U.S. stands as the 90th in the 182 nations that give fair and equal representation world wide. We are slacking. Men make up 83% of Congress. Women have a harder struggle attaining a seat in Congress than a man would.

Not only  is there the self-conscious bindings society places on women, there is the incapacity for males to accept females coming into power and attaining a greater status or even an equal status to themselves.

In March, India voted to have at least 30% of government to be females. These countries set standards that America is so far from achieving. 

Women are too worried about balancing out the life of having a picket fence and an unattainable American dream, if you read Death of a Salesman or The Great Gatsby, you would understand that this dream is false.

It is time for a change, and to boost up the number from a dismal 90...

USA Today Article

Honor your father and mother, what about your sister?

Honor killing has occurred globally for centuries and still is in practice. Brothers and fathers will kill wives or siblings if they even speak to a male, are suspicious of them seeing a male, or if she was raped. A tainted woman, even if she is tainted against her will, is a dead woman.

Living in fear and under the control of the male in the house, you must travel with a male relative at all times. There is no court, and there is no jury. Death is unavoidable.

In Afghanistan, soccer fields are used for the gathering of men, to stone to death women who have supposedly committed a crime. They die bloody invisible deaths behind thick dark burqas.

In America, this occurs as well. Noor al-Maleki was estranged from her family, due to their incessant want for her to have an arranged marriage with an Iraqi. She was set apart from her family because of her "American ways" of dress and refusal of culture. She started to develop a relationship with a boy in the house she was living in. Her father warned her to discontinue living there or "something bad would happen."

She had seen her father while in the Department of Economic Security (DES) office. When Noor and the woman she was with walked outside, her father ran over both women. Killing his daughter, who bleed out of her mouth and never regained consciousness. Her father faced second-degree murder charges. His reasoning was "honor killing" and protecting the honor of the family that she destroyed.

This problem exists world wide. It should be acknowledged. If you have a sibling, it may seem insane, but that  could be the next target or threat in a case like this. Imagine living in fear, in the dark of a veil, and in a veil that  both blinds onlookers and oneself from the world and problems.

Americans may not wear burqas, but their sight is being clouded by the media's inability to show the truth.
For more information on Noor's story: Time U.S.
To assist women in need globally: Amnesty International

Clitoris Cutting: Pain, Fear, Infection, and Death.

It is tradition, to be applicable for marriage and accepted in your community, to have your clitoris removed with non-medical materials, in a shack, by someone who is a witch doctor with no medical experience.

An article posted in the New York Times on October 15th, 2011 tells the story of Aissatou Kande who as a little girl was forced into getting her clitoris removed as a rite of passage into marriage. On her wedding day she vowed to change the fate of her daughters, so they would not suffer this mutilation.

Across the continent of Africa over 92 million girls and women have undergone this "rite of passage".

This is a huge humanitarian issue. Women are subjected to pain in which they have the one area that senses pleasure of sex removed. Males do not have any alterations to their sex organs, and women who have this procedure done will never be able to enjoy sex. It mentally, emotionally, and physically removes a women from enjoying the beauty of sex. It is a subservient and dangerous procedure. Woman should not be subjected to reside so far beneath men that they have an essential female part removed to take away one of the greatest pleasures in life.

A male can gratify himself into a female, who feels absolutely nothing. Possibly intrusion of pain is felt, but nothing more.

Imagine losing what was meant to be there for the want and need of sex biologically so we could go forth and procreate.

In America the greatest problem is pro-choice or pro-life, imagine now no choice in the matter, and no sexual pleasure during, but only pain. While we here in America focus on the battle of 46 chromosomes being alive or not, women in Africa fight to keep their actual vagina intact.

Africa is where this occurs the most. Africa is also where the highest rates of AIDS is. Now put non-medically trained people, with crude tools, unsanitary conditions, and a young girl with no choice into the same picture.

For more information and to help out you can also visit Amnesty International.
This is a real problem and should be addressed immediately.

Do You Strut Your Slut?

On January 24th, 2011 a police official of Toronto stated in relation to female sexual assault that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized"


Sexual assault is usually kept secret, and now if you live in Toronto you would be deterred from reporting the crime, because ladies you would be the one to blame.


"Historically, the term ‘slut’ has carried a predominantly negative connotation. Aimed at those who are sexually promiscuous, be it for work or pleasure, it has primarily been women who have suffered under the burden of this label." This is what is stated on the SlutWalk Toronto site.


Women should be able to dress however they want. Women are seen as sexual beings, in literature at least, and psychologically, but that does not mean that they desire sexual assault. 


The fact that a man can judge what you wear and declare a dominant mindset is an ignorant act and wrong. 


My father had said in reaction to this, that Muslim women are completely covered and do not draw the same attention as females do who wear scantly clad clothing. My response is that both women wearing complete head to toe coverage and those who wear barely any clothing receive ridicule. 


Maybe there is some insight into this rebellious, almost release from the entrapment of head to toe coverage that gives women the allusion of freedom and where men, correct women by calling them sluts. 


There is the down side to being covered head to toe as well, not only is it an outward expression of repression of speech and female power, it is a covering of the physical female power.


For those of you who have trouble understanding the analysis of the burqa read A Thousand Splendid Suns and it will open your eyes to the Muslim world, in both a loving sense and a troubled one.


The next Slut Walk will be taking place in April 2012. 
SlutWalk Toronto 

He Loves you, He loves you when you say No... and other dealings with the "L" word.

Wendy Atterberry wrote a piece for CNN called "Why women shouldn't say 'I love you' first". Adding onto the mentions she made that a male's response is more of a "yes", "no", or even some gray area, which sounds like "thanks" , "oh", or "I like you, and could maybe see myself loving you sometime in the future". The also acceptable response is the doe eyed stare.

There is the fear of rejection and timing that has to be involved. The other part of it is the defeat in admitting it first. As Atterberry also mentioned in the article "And the truth is, it often takes men longer to get there than it does for women. Men process their emotions more slowly, they're usually more cautious about taking their feelings and relationships to the next level." Interesting right.

So ladies reserve the "L" word and make the man cave first...I did!

Another related subject is when women say no and reject a guy, they simply take that into translation as to like them more.

So somehow lost in translation, the male perceives the female to be coy and in denial of him. I guess we would have less corny romantic films if NO actually meant NO!

For instance in the film "The Prince and Me" when the female character initially rejects the male main character he still attempts to win her heart, and as an audience we are still pushing for their love to flourish even though he leads a life of drinking and womanizing.

Well ladies, remember to say NO and stick to your guns, DO NOT say 'I love you' first, and trust your instinct. Men may be pigs and have poor communication skills, but have hope there are some keepers out there.

CNN article by Wendy Atterberry